Selena Gomez wearing a black strapless gown with a diamond choker necklace

Selena Gomez at the Vanity Fair Oscar Party in 2025.Credit: Michael Tran/Getty Images

Selena Gomez revealed she was “alone” and “hadn’t liked anyone in a very long time” five years after ending things with Justin Bieber.
The two singers had an on-again, off-again relationship from 2010-2018.
Gomez began dating longtime friend Benny Blanco in 2023.

Selena Gomez is opening up about what life was like post-breakup following nearly a decade of her on-again, off-again romance with Justin Bieber. Sitting down for a tell-all interview on Jessie and Lennie Ware’s “Table Manners” podcast alongside her fiancé Benny Blanco, the “Calm Down” singer recounted her first kiss with the producer, whom she started dating in 2023.

“I hadn’t liked anyone in a very long time,” Gomez shared. “So some kisses are for fun, and then when you feel something behind a kiss, it’s completely different. And I’d been alone for about five years, with the exception of a few shitty dates here and there, but never felt that way. And I was a little embarrassed.”

Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco at the 97th annual Oscars in 2025.

Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco at the 97th annual Oscars in 2025.Emma McIntyre/Getty Images

Gomez’s admission that she felt “alone” was a rare moment for the Emilia Pérez actress, who rarely gets candid about her personal life in public. Her penchant for privacy is understandable given the intense scrutiny she and Bieber endured from 2010 to their final breakup in 2018. Fans continued to root for “Jelena” even after their split and Bieber’s prompt re-coupling with his now-wife, Hailey Bieber.

Justin Bieber and Selena Gomez at the 2011 ESPY Awards.

Justin Bieber and Selena Gomez at the 2011 ESPY Awards.Christopher Polk/Getty Images

This isn’t the first time Gomez has reflected on her decade with Bieber, however. In 2022, the “Love On” singer revealed that she considers their breakup “the best thing” that had ever happened to her.

“I felt haunted by a past relationship that no one wanted to let go of,” Gomez said in her Apple TV+ documentary My Mind & Me. “But then I just moved past it. I wasn’t afraid anymore.”

Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco in New York City.

Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco in New York City.XNY/Getty Images

Gomez’s new relationship with Blanco has been celebrated by family, friends, and fans alike. The pair were longtime friends before coupling up and got engaged after roughly one year of dating, in December 2024. “Forever begins now,” she wrote on Instagram at the time.